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Being helpful can add to the personal development of an individual. Read more about helpfulness and its importance.
Helpfulness is the virtue of kind and generous individuals. It is one of the saintly virtues. Truly helping out someone is to help him or her without expecting anything in return. But according to Mother Nature’s rule, whatever goes around has to come around. So, being helpful surely pays off to the individual in some way or the other.
The acts of helpfulness then become a chain of other innumerable acts of helpfulness. Being helpful plays an important role in helping an individual become selfless. Selfishness, on the other hand, is responsible for hatred and destruction.
There are several ways in which one can become helpful to the near and dear ones as well as to the strangers. Let us take a look at some of these ways.
Ways to Be Helpful
Here are some simple ways to be helpful to others.
Understand Others
Understanding others is the first step in being helpful to others. It is important to understand an individual to take into account what that individual is going through to help him or her.
Think About Others
Being selfish can do more harm to yourself and you can never be happy in life. To be helpful, it is very necessary to think about others while you are thinking of your happiness. Only then you can understand when they need your help and you will actually end up helping them.
Have a Goal
Create goals for yourself. Have a goal of helping at least one person in a day. Think of different ways to help a particular individual. For example, on a particular day if there is a blind school nearby, stand near it for some time and help a blind individual cross the road. On the next day serve lunch to someone who is in need. Someday be helpful and kind towards animals and birds by feeding them.
Do Not Make Excuses
When you get an opportunity to help someone who is in need, do not make excuses. If you are not able to provide help yourself, try to arrange for help at least or try to provide some contribution or the other for helping that individual.
Avoid Ignoring
Never ignore when someone is in distress and try to run away from the situation. Ignoring the person in distress on purpose can develop a sense of distrust. Next time the person will not turn to you for help and you will miss an opportunity to be helpful.
Make a Helpfulness Journal
Motivate yourself by making a ‘Helpfulness Journal’ for yourself. Whenever you help someone, note down the date, the name of the person and describe how you helped him or her.
Stick to Your Commitments to Help
You must never-give-up your commitments to help others. Try your best but in case you fail to help, let the person know politely before it is too late. You must make commitments to help according to your capacity to help.
Stop Nagging Others
If you offer help to someone and that person turns your offer down, do not feel sad. However, never nag that person again and again to accept your help. If the person genuinely feels that you are capable of helping him or her, that person will surely approach you.
Be Accessible
Make yourself accessible to the kind of help you are willing to provide. For example, if you are extending your hand for donating something to the needy and are unable to find the one, share this information on social media platforms or inform your friends, relatives, and neighbours about it.
Evaluate Yourself
Evaluate yourself from time-to-time based on the number of people you have helped. Try to raise your bar after every evaluation. Your ‘Helpfulness Journal’ will surely help you with it.
Helping someone truly means helping that person without expecting anything in return. Helpfulness is about giving. Just taking from others increases the desire to have more and more. The desire to have more gives rise to negative virtues like greed and selfishness. While you give to others, you can become content from within. “The Joy of Giving” is incomparable. The acts of helpfulness teach one to be polite which in turn stimulates politeness in individuals who are around such people. Such individuals then become an asset to society.
